How it Feels to Not Contribute Financially

It has been nearly nine months since I made the life changing decision to stay home with my baby instead of heading back to work. Sometimes I think it would be easy to fill novels with all the thoughts and ideas I have had while raising my son.

My husband and I had been toying the idea of me not returning to work back and forth when we first found out I was pregnant but I had a firm decision made up that I was 100% returning to work.

After the birth of our son, and a few changes at home I ended up leaving my career to raise my son myself.

Since we had planned on my return to work once my maternity leave had ended we did not have much savings in the bank.

I love budgeting and have become quite good at planning our spending and savings out through the upcoming two or three months.

It always feels like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. Waiting for a huge bill to come or a month where maybe we don’t get as much money from my husbands work.

It took nearly three months of intense budgeting for me to finally feel like we have a little bit saved so that going forward we will be able to pay for things like a new car seat or any upcoming bills we may have.

I have come to this realization that regardless of how much I do at home I’ll always feel like I’m less because I don’t contribute financially. I’m trying as best as I can to find ways to sell old clothes or shoes to help out a little bit here and there, but for those people who aren’t contributing financially, just know you should be appreciated for what you can bring to the relationship.